Lamapig:
It's been a wonderful night, I slept with a smile on my face which cannot be removed after reading Mr. Grey post on this blog last night.
Lamapig thinks:
Sometimes a simple gesture of concern do make a big differences, no matter how big a misunderstanding can be,
A relationship isn't as simple as I love you, you love me. Bouncing the 3 words here and there, back and forth.
No matter how big a misunderstanding can be, the awkwardness going to be there when the problems (e.g misunderstanding, argument) wasn't properly resolved. A lot of man misunderstood and start showering with gifts, flowers or even cash? (are you kidding me?) is the right way to resolve the problems. But that's wrong...
Some men thoughts >> "Yea she will know I love her because of the gifts"
I don't think that is true, woman is an very emotional creatures after all. I have seen a friend of mine named "J" her husband shower her with lots of gifts after big argument or even after he hits her. She accepted it with a smile on her face, but deep down she wasn't smiling at all.
The smile, with a sense of helpless and I saw the look in her eyes... what she actually wanted wasn't the gifts.....
She knows there isn't anything else she can say anymore to make him understand, to avoid further unhappiness between a relationship which is already falling, she quietly took the gifts and keep telling herself "At least he give me gifts so I think he do care."
How many times can she keep saying that to herself? I asked myself at that time. But I know if this relationship is to carry on the way it is, there will be an end soon because....
She finally realize she can't lied to herself anymore.
I'm sure there is a lot of women out there, where their husband having *another love*, always come back home to his wife next with lots of gifts and present.
Men like to do things only when there is a meaning to it or worth doing it... (Yes that applies to almost everything around them)
Example, husband get gifts back for wife after betrayal
Because he wants to make her happier, or real reason is it make himself feels less guilty?
(or both, like mentioned above doing things when there is a meaning to it, killing 2 birds with a single stone. Why not? )
Sadly...
Women wasn't a materialistic freak (well there might be a few out there who are, but normally they aren't)
Woman who knows their love one is "Eating" behind their back and still accept the gifts wasn't because she like the gifts... and don't even think she only care for gifts!
Is because she already given up hope in fighting for this relationship, at this point is when the only wish she have is "As long you come home everyday....I will pretend I doesn't know"
I grew up in a family like that, my mum suffered a lot. But at that time, she is pregnant with me.
She is depressed and cried over the long nights of 9 months. In the beginning she approach my dad, he didn't admit but never deny.
Slowly the gifts starts arriving... mum can't say anything but just accepting it. At this point when she is pregnant, there isn't much she can do then just to hope he come home isn't it?
Wow, blog gets long pretty quickly! Doesn't know why I start talking about affairs lol! No, it's not happening to me of course.
I made myself a promised 6 years ago. If my partner ever cheats on me, I will not say a word and I shall leave him. As if you think this woman is better than me and can give you the happiness I gave you, go ahead. But do not even think of having me back if you regret.
Ok still don't know why I got there, I am mainly trying to say there isn't a better way to remove the awkwardness or break the ice of a relationship than being true to each other. Just a sentence "I love you" makes a big differences to me personally, but you have to be sincere so beware and use these 3 words carefully. If you have a bit of consideration, do not use these 3 words if you are not sincere (e.g "Yea yea I love you ok?" , "I don't know, I might love you i think")
IMPORTANT for my Mr Grey
To Mr Grey, Thank you for your nice messages and being so far away from each other wasn't easy. I know I am a strange magnet which have the weird things stuck around me..But as long I have my Grey, I will never lay my eyes on any "things."
Well if the things is Depp hehe I may take a tiny peek *cheeky*
Thank you for trusting me and I will of course trust you.
It is strange and nice, how we witness the bond between the two individuals grow, and I'm sure you realize and it was even done from so far away from each other I'm sure you realized that..Do you remember when I asked you in the beginning, how will you feel when I leave you one month later? And you replied, "I'm not sure, until it comes."
I will always remember the last moment before I get on the plane what you said to me, the hugs and unforgettable tears.
And I will stay put with you as a good lamapig *Stick my butt on the chair or something* for as long as we need.
There is no perfect definition of our love but it's mysterious ^^ so I want to see what this magic can actually do in future. I hope you enjoy your movie and I miss your good morning voices (blush)
My boss team is leaving to Singapore tomorrow (Friday) as our project starts on Monday. I am (as usual) stuck in Singapore to in-charge of the Malaysia operation.
Finally this is getting to the end of the blog, I'm sorry that you still unwell. *Pat head*
It's funny how you start off the first sentence "I don't like to call myself Mr. Grey as I am not a pervert"
And the ending to be "I think I might even clean up my room for her"
You set yourself up there (cheeky smile)
PS: Hope you receive your birthday present today, and i forgot to tell u ^^ I bought myself something that is in the same packaging (blush) please keep it safe for me also okie :D
Lots of love to Mr Grey.
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